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of the economy of Soul. Yes, season two is here. And when I say that I have missed recording, sitting down and hitting record each week, it's an understatement. The pause was necessary, the pause was needed, and it was very fruitful, and now I am back. And this season is going to be so...
full of rich conversations. I am so excited for the guests that I have lined up and for those that I'm sure are going to come as a result of continuing to do this work. But wow, I can just say that building an economy for your own self, particularly at this time where we're at, it's unmatched.
And I am thrilled and excited to be able to bring guests that are going to continue to help you build your soul-led business in a way that is going to allow you to thrive and not just survive. And if there's anything that this break has really taught me, it is to be able to anchor more deeply into my mission, anchor more deeply into my truth, and to really allow that to be the thing that leads me. So.
I'm so thrilled to have you here today to listen, to check in, to, you know, just share your space with me. Today we are going to talk about one of the things that feels, it feels like one of the foundational principles of what I believe in my work, but also in my life. And that is you can have it all.
And I know this is going to be slightly controversial because there's a lot of things out there that tell us, particularly as women, that we should not have it all or we cannot have it all. And how does that even happen? But I really want to break it down from that soul-led place that exists in each and every one of us. And so one of the statements that I'm making in this part of
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My work is that maybe we were told that we couldn't have it all and maybe they were wrong. And this feels important to launch, to catapult this season of the podcast in that energy because for so long and in so many ways when I took the break and in the work that I do, I see over and over again women settling.
for things they do not want. They do not want because they believe that that's the only thing that is possible for them. And so I wanted to start and kick off the return of the podcast under the guise and the energy that, fuck that, we are gonna go for it. So.
If that feels like an edge for you, buckle up because we're gonna go on a wild ride today because we are going to sit in the understanding of what that means for us in our bodies, why we are telling ourselves that we can't have it all, and what does it even mean to say that we have it all. And so I am going to start.
By just bringing us into center, bringing us, pulling us in, if you're driving, please don't close your eyes, but for those of us who can, I'm just gonna invite you to begin to center yourself into your breath and into your being to slow down, to be able to start witnessing what's coming up for you in your body, to just really come home because we are all busy. We are all out there every day.
doing our thing, reaching for more. And we're just gonna pause for a minute and come into our bodies. So continue to just take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.
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And I'm just gonna invite you to begin to allow what needs to melt away off of your body or out of your mind to just simply slide off you. Just let it slip away as we go deeper and deeper into our truth.
deeper and deeper into our being.
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and allowing that to take up space and presence in this moment.
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And as you're here centered into this space, I want you to just ask yourself the question.
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What does having it all mean to me?
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What does having it all mean to me?
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and just give yourself the space to allow what wants to come forward to be.
And we're just gonna sit with that for a moment because we're gonna utilize it through our time together today.
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as we begin to take ownership and claim.
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what truly feels like having it all means for our lives.
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And when you feel ready, you can open your eyes back up.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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It has been a real journey for me over the last, it's been almost a year, which feels quite unbelievable to me. What felt like was a busy summer turned into a catastrophic soul shifting fall and winter for me. And I am just starting to come out of the fog. And although,
I believe deeply as a generator that teaching from the fog is part of the reason why I was placed on this earth because I feel that the vulnerable truth of where we are often is the most rich for not just sugar coating how we get to the end, how we move through the hard stuff.
It wasn't my intention to take a break that long. It wasn't my intention to not continue to teach from that place. But when I say that I went through a death and rebirth cycle, that is a massive understatement. I look at who I was even in December of 2024. And five months later, I barely recognized that girl anymore, that woman. It has been what?
felt like light speed growth that wasn't really something I chose to sign up for and yet was exactly what I needed to be able to land where I've landed now. And so it served my work. It served the path. It served the trajectory of what I have decided to claim for myself as my truth because
For so long, I was dancing around it. For so long, I myself just said, it was OK. I can accept less, and that's still beautiful and OK. And what this time off has really proven to me is that we can try to dim it down. We can try to say that it's OK and that it's acceptable and that we're all right.
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just accepting a little bit less than what we fully believe for ourselves. And you know, and in many seasons that is okay. In many seasons it is okay. But I believe you will come to a point, I believe that we all come to a point where we have to make the decision of whether or not we are content with where we're at or whether or not we want to step into our truth in a more full way.
And so I've shared before, obviously, that for many years I danced around the truth of who I was. I danced around this notion that I could create abundance through writing and speaking and doing this podcast. And I just didn't think that it was possible. I didn't believe in myself enough, believe in my message enough to think that it was possible for me. And yet it was something that I could not let go of.
My soul was absolutely not okay with saying, we're just gonna settle over here. We're just gonna accept this. My soul was like knocking on the door on the daily to say, no, this is not where we're going. You're being called here. And so whether that feels like the voice of God, the voice of your true self, pure love, the universe, whatever label we slap onto it, I believe it's the same thing.
and it is the voice of our truth, the voice of our soul. And this time, what it really allowed for me was to begin to reweave and re-envision what it is that I wanted for my life and what it is that I wanted my work to feel like.
And the thing is, is that it was the same. It was the same thing that's always been sitting there. And so at the end of January, I will actually let's back it up. Back in October, I started to feel a massive pull of like no more, no more excuses, no more not playing big, no more not like putting all your cards on the table. Like this is the time this is happening.
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You can feel it in your body and I could feel it like this tension. You know, the sensation of it was that I could not really grasp staying where I was without building in the growth of where I knew I needed to go. And I didn't have a formulation specifically of what that looked like. And I think that that's really important. I had a trust. I had this felt sense of like, this is where I need to go.
And of course, when you have that felt sense, I believe that the universe and God begins to lay that path out for you. And someone came into my orbit who has been very impactful on helping me get here. And she is a publicist for personal brands. And I never thought that I would invest in my business in that way. And yet it was the easiest thing I did all last year.
It was one of the easiest decisions that I make to say, yep, we're doing it. And my body felt completely at peace. And so this is how I know that it's part of the blueprint of my life, because my body did not feel anxious, even though it was a large amount of money. My body did not feel like any of the fear. It felt completely at peace of where we were going. And so I made that investment knowing that this was going to be a long term.
Build up that it wasn't gonna be an overnight thing and it also made so much sense because of that and We focus a lot, you know in our business and in our life and like the society and all of this about this being an instant Overnight success and I'm like man. I missed that train 20 years ago. So there's been nothing instance Instant in my life in terms of like turning the dime
And I think that that's maybe what's important here is that I don't think or I don't prescribe to the notion that just because it takes a little bit time doesn't mean that it's not where you're meant to be. I sometimes think that we need to become versions of ourselves through that time to be able to meet ourselves where we need to be in order to welcome it in.
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And I wish I had known that as my younger self because I was just in a hurry. I was impatient. I was like, yeah, I know, I know. And yet it still took all this time. And yet it also seems to have happened overnight. And that's the beautiful thing. So I made this huge investment back in October and, I think I made the investment in December, but anyways, I knew that I was going to be pushing myself into the direction of that.
way of beginning to work more on building the personal brand, on getting out there, on inviting in new conversations, of working on public relations and PR because I knew that the book was going to be done soon. Now for those of you who've been around here for a while, this book it's been brewing since 2021 and through many life changes between then and now including
the end of a business, the end of my marriage, I moved, I have done all these things, finalized my divorce. In all of that, the book has just been gnawing at me. And for anyone who knows that they came here to do something, the word gnawing probably makes sense to you because it was just a consistent, a consistent like,
edge for me, a consistent invitation of saying you gotta finish this, you gotta finish this. And so after I moved in December, I concentrated on getting the edits done and submitting it to my top hybrid publisher. And I submitted it on a Sunday morning, the end of January.
expecting really not to hear anything back. And then by Thursday, I received an acceptance offer with a note from the CEO saying that only about 12 % of submitted manuscripts get a mark of three, which is what I had received for mine. And it was a moment that I most likely will never forget.
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truthfully. It's gonna live in my bones for the rest of my life because it all of a sudden came into actualization in a way that I don't think I was even prepared for. I think I thought I'm just gonna submit this and maybe I'm gonna have to submit it to a few more people, a few more publishing houses before any traction is really gained.
and
And by Thursday, February 4th, I believe it was, that was it. Everything had shifted in just that one defining moment.
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And of course, since then, it's just been a whirlwind of me mostly confronting all of the pieces of myself, all of the parts that have said and have told me over the years that you can't have it all.
And I've had to lean into the knowing that no one else can seep but me, but lean into the knowing that this is part of the divine blueprint of who I came here to be.
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And when we can begin to connect into that, which is why I invited you to start there.
We begin to really weave together the understanding that having it all looks very different for each of us. Having it all is not about having everything. It's about us anchoring into and really building out the vision of what we believe is having it all.
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And as I was, as I've been, I'm still in the middle of it, as I'm going through these motions of having to shed so much of the noise, just the outside noise of what society has told me, the limiting beliefs that I was packing around in terms of the possibility and the belief that I could live a life.
that is resonant and in alignment with the blueprint of who I came here to be. I have had to turn it down. I have had to meet myself over and over and over in the muck. It's like pure muck of why I ever believed anything other.
than the fact that I can have it all according to who I am and according to the vision and the mission and the blueprint that I was sent to this earth to actualize.
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and there truly is nothing.
more activating than beginning to step into that in a way that your body has not been able to process quite yet. And so I think over the course of the last three, four months, I have constantly been in the work of my own work. And if you've ever felt that, if you've ever had to work your own work for yourself, whew.
gives you a whole different perspective of what you're inviting people into on the daily. And so I could feel, I could feel the tension rising. I could feel the procrastination setting in. I could feel the exhaustion.
of how much energy it was requiring and I was expending in order to allow these parts of myself that no longer wanted to believe this to fall away. Because those parts of myself had been the parts that led me so often in my work up until now.
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And there was this small part that just kept saying, keep working on it. Hit submit. Sign the contract. Take the next step. But that wasn't the prominent part of me. The prominent part of me is freaking the fuck out. It's saying like, no, pause, hold on, retreat. Who do you think you are to go out there and tell other people how to lead their lives?
Because if we just look back here, your life's not perfect.
You know, shit's been handed to you.
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And it made me feel like an imposter. made me go, my God, you're right. Who am I?
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And day after day after day, I was trudging through the muck. I was trudging through looking for the truth of who I am.
I was holding up these beliefs at warp speed, felt like some days, and saying, is this true for me anymore? Do I wanna believe this? Is this actually how I wanna lead myself, my life, my legacy?
And so often the answer was no, no.
Well, what feels true for me is that when I get specific, when I anchor into who I am and the vision that I hold for my life.
It's the most beautiful life I could imagine.
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It's the most beautiful life I could imagine.
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and it's filled with things that are specific to me.
It's filled with a lifestyle that is specific to my desires.
It is an energy that is specific to how I want to move through my life on the daily.
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and it probably looks nothing like your version of having it all.
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But when we look at what we've been told, taught, sold to be the definition of having it all.
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most of those things don't even fit into the landscape of what it is that I want.
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You know, I often will say that my version of success was anchored in being able to drop my kids off at school and pick them up after school.
It's so simple. It's so simple.
I personally do not need designer handbags or designer shoes.
And there's nothing wrong with that if that's what you want.
If that's the blueprint of who you came here to be, if that is the truth of who you are, then there is nothing wrong with that.
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you're being activated and invited into a journey that is specific for you.
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But if we start to get quiet and we start to get really clear, so often our version of having it all does not mean that we have everything. It means that we cultivate and design our life.
to be in alignment with our truth.
And if we can turn off, if we can really get clear enough to turn off the noise, to turn off that external reverberation that just comes at us through commercials and Instagrams and what have you, right? Like we're inundated. We are inundated on the daily of things we think we need and want.
And very rarely are we checking in with our own internal compass, with our own center to say, does this make sense for me? Is this where I'm being called to lead my life right now?
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But no one wants that. Capitalism does not want us questioning that.
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Capitalism wants us to say everything is what defines having it all. I need a boat, I need an RV, I need a vacation house, I need to travel, I need designer everything.
I need clothes on there, monthly.
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Right?
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I need a 12 step health routine before I get out of the bed at 5am.
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And again, if those are the things that you desire, if those are the things that are in your blueprint, then that is perfect for you.
but you might not want the things that I want. You might not care about dropping your kids off and picking them up. I know moms who are like, it's not important for me. Perfect.
that you can anchor into that and claim it for yourself.
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having it all and allowing yourself to claim it.
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is really about your sovereignty.
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And so as we kick off this season and, you know, I come back into alignment with this work, which is so incredibly important to this piece, the podcast, and beginning to invite people into it. What I want you to get really clear about...
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because we're gonna talk strategy, we're gonna talk like systems, we're gonna talk all the things in this season. But I want you to get clear first and foremost about what it means for you to have it all.
and allow that to be the guiding light that we build everything else around. We can build the strategy around that. We can build the systems around that. But understand first, understand first where you want to lead yourself. What is important? What values are you going to execute and uphold?
as you live the remainder of your days.
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We can build business in a multitude of ways. There's so many ways that we can build a business out that would be profitable, that it's going to be sustainable, that will be long term.
And yet, many of those ways are not going to be reflective of the blueprint of who you are.
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I see so much out there about 10 steps. Follow my formula and you will get here.
And I've tried some of them. And a lot of them have not worked for me. A lot of them are anchored in one person's blueprint.
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They're anchored in the specifics of that person's journey and perception and nervous system.
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And yet we cling on to them like they are the holy word of how to get us from here to there.
And while some of them probably will work, what we are often forgetting is us. We are often forgetting what feels true and right for ourselves.
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So as we kick off this season, I want you to sit just for a moment in the belief.
that you can have it all.
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I can't wait to see you next week. Sending so much love to you all.
