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Can we get an Amen? Amen. Amen. Over the last six weeks, I know I have not sat down to record an episode, you guys, but my gosh, hallelujah, anyways.
I don't even know where to begin. And I keep telling people, like, it's so hard for me to describe what is happening right now in my life and in my business because we it's just it's moving. Things are moving so incredibly quickly, but also so incredibly aligned. And I'm not even sure where to begin. So we're gonna go back. We're gonna go back to the start. I had recorded.
episode and then I got busy and just did not put it out. But it was like the week before the book launch. And I was feeling like I I'm gonna try and take myself back there for a minute because what was happening before the book launch was that I was feeling this overwhelming. And when I say overwhelming it was like deafening. Like it was so incredibly loud the amount of resistance and doubt and
voices that it wasn't gonna be good enough that just like literally everything that you could think of in terms of doubt playing out that was what was playing out in my mind how dare you who do you think you are to even do this why are you doing this like you might as well just stop pull the plug revert go back to who you were before you even thought you could write a book
Let alone publish it. And it was deafening. It was deafening. It was it was swallowing me whole. And about the only thing that I had to lean on those few days before the launch, it was really about a week before the launch. Was that I knew I knew that this was part of the process. If you are
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Ever expanding into something into your life that means something to you, I am telling you right now, the resistance is part of the process. You don't get to evade it just because it's aligned. In fact, the more aligned it is, the louder it is going to be. The louder it's going to be. And thankfully, I had listened to my intuition to get an energetic session.
Done by an amazing woman named Rochelle, who I will link in the show notes because everybody needs to experience it. But I went and had a treatment with her on the Friday before the launch. The launch was on a Tuesday, and that really recentered me in the most profound way because I remembered, I remembered exactly why I was doing this.
I remembered exactly why the doubt is so incredibly loud. I remembered exactly why there was no other option than for me to just go through with it and ride the wave of the doubt and the the lingering, it's like the lingering pull of an old version, a past version of you that just didn't have the courage to do what you're doing now.
Right, that its comfort zone was so much smaller. And when you're busting through that in a big way, it feels mighty, mighty, mighty uncomfortable. So the biggest thank you to Rochelle because she that session really allowed me to ground back into the truth that this is one million percent where I needed to be and what needed to be happening.
And even on the day, like even on the day, I had a split second before I went out on stage.
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I had a split second where I thought, fuck. Maybe I should have prepared something because what I have been doing lately is preparing nothing when I go on stage and I allow my own guidance system to take the mic.
But I had a moment again where this little voice said to me, like, How dare you do that? Like, what if you get out here and absolutely nothing moves through you? What if nothing moves through you and you are left standing there without a word to say?
That's not what happened. That's not what happened at all. I don't exactly remember what I did say because I get into a it's almost a channeled state. And I don't remember what it was that I talked about, but I know that it was important. I know that it was my truth. I know that it landed for people because I could see them. I could see them being moved by it. And the more that I lean into this, the more that I understand.
And once I stood, once I came out on stage, that is when the shift really truly happened from an identity perspective. And I know I talk a lot about identity and what that means, but when you feel the shift, when you can actually feel the embodiment of this next version take over, guess what happens? Guess what happens?
All of the doubt completely melts away. It completely melts away. And since then, it is now June 1st, but since April 21st, the doubt has been quiet. The doubt has been so quiet. And I have just been able to sit and anchor into the beauty of what has happened since the launch.
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becoming became behave became an overnight Amazon bestseller in multiple categories. Something that didn't feel super important to me to hit. but that when I did, I realized that that wasn't like about me. It wasn't about me. It was about the people receiving the work.
It was about the people who now get to take something that was stitched together from my own pain and wisdom and knowing and they get to make it their own.
And the validation of that was remarkable. It was remarkable to wake up to that. It was remarkable to hear from people reading the book, tagging the book, telling me what was moving within them, what they were taking away from it, and what shifted. And that's incredible. Like
It's the most incredible thing I think I've ever experienced. And my work has been in many different ways out in the world for the last twenty years.
But there's something about someone having the book in their hands or reading it.
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that feels monumental to me. Because there was a version of me when I was nineteen years old who dared to even s even have the thought that one day I would write a book.
And I sat in that dream for 20 years, 22 years, just wondering, like, was this really for me? Is this really is this really for me? Can I, could I really do it? And the moment that I stepped out on that stage, I realized how
important how important it was to embody that identity for myself.
And now I get to and have watched the work do what she needs to do. And that's been incredible. I've spoken on three additional stages and hosted a retreat in the south of France. I just got back from Europe last late last Thursday night. And I am still reeling.
From processing the experience of what Europe was. And a lot of people go to Europe. A lot of people, a lot of people go to Europe. This was the first time I'd ever been to Europe. but again, there was something that happened for me in there because of
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what I'd lived through over the past few years, particularly. I'm gonna say since 2020, and how hard it had been, how
How just like in the trenches I had been around just surviving and now moving into a new place of thriving.
And it's a journey, man. It's a journey because your comfort zone, your nervous system is anchored so deeply into where you are currently that moving from survival to thriving is very uncomfortable because that is where your nervous system ramps up. You are going to get triggered, you are going to go into your fight, flight.
collapse, freeze, font, whatever it is that your nervous system loves to be, it is going to constantly take you there. And you're gonna want to run from that. You're gonna want to run from the intense uncomfortability that it feels.
But it's so worth it. It's so worth it on the other side. And the first night that we were in Paris, my best friend and I of 24 years, we met our first year at university. We were sitting there. The only thing that I really wanted to do was to watch the sparkly lights on the Eiffel Tower, which they only light up every
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like on the hour every hour for five minutes. And so I was like, okay, I really want to make sure that I am there for that. And like it's emotional. As soon as I saw the Eiffel Tower, I got emotional, which is so weird because I'm gonna be honest, Europe was not on my radar as like a place I needed to go, as something I needed to experience. Paris was not on my radar, but that was like the survival me, the survival me.
rejected so many possibilities because I I didn't believe they were for me. And so I would consciously tell myself I didn't actually want that. Who cares? Don't need it in my life. Because the pain of
The pain of wanting something and knowing that you're never gonna get it, that's an excruciating pain. And so instead I spent a lot of time formulating stories around not wanting things because I, when I was in survival mode, wouldn't have been able to access them. But when that began to shift for me, all of a sudden I realized that I actually did want things. I actually kind of wanted
A lot of things, a lot of experiences that I never would have let myself dream about before. And being at the Eiffel Tower was one of them. And as soon as I came into view of her, I got pretty choked up. I got pretty choked up. And as Lorna and I were sitting there, as her being the person who witnessed
Every version of my adult self goes through iteration after iteration, understanding after understanding. and for us to just be sitting there on the lawn together in communion with all of these other people who were equally as excited to witness the beauty of.
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of this moment. And when it lit up, I just thought, wow.
This gets to stay.
And it makes me emotional even thinking about it now because as someone who has had a lot of trauma and hard shit in her life, not just as a child, but also as an adult.
Really, up until a couple of years ago.
That default was that it doesn't get to stay. It's fleeting, that my joy is temporary, that my happiness is going to be railroaded by something else happening.
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And when I started to move out of that understanding, and as I'm sitting here on the lawn, fully engulfed in
the opportunity to just be there and to be in this place within myself that it feels so overwhelmingly beautiful and the gratitude is so incredibly deep. This gets to stay really became my mantra for Europe, for all of Europe.
And every time I think about it, every time I say it out loud, it sort of punches me in the gut a little bit. Because this work has allowed a very, very different version of me to come alive.
To come alive.
And this work has offered me an understanding of myself and my nervous system and where those edges exist so that I can move them. They are not immovable. They are not immovable. And for me to be able to move from a deep sense of survival only as being the baseline for everything, where my nervous system was constantly activated, I was all the time.
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Not understanding, and I would have hopes and dreams, of course. I would have hopes and dreams, but I never really understood how I could trust them. My joy, I didn't trust my joy. I didn't trust possibility at all. I did not trust possibility that these things were here for me and that they could stay. And so as I moved from Paris.
Down to the south of France where we hosted seven women. It was so beautiful. I just kept saying to myself, this gets to stay. This gets to stay. The hard
The trauma, the betrayal, all of that has gone now. But this, this joy, this beauty, this richness, it gets to stay. And I am going to build a life around that understanding.
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And so as we moved through the elevate retreat,
Suzanne and I should do an episode just dedicated to that because it was some of the most beautiful work that I've ever done, held space for in the most intimate and excruciatingly beautiful way. The laughter that we shared.
Was just it was awe-inspiring to see these women shift and and change in front of our eyes about their dreams, about their own, their own understanding of possibility, of their identity, of who they were stepping into and claiming parts of themselves.
That they longed for but didn't know how to access, and that were then accessing them. Like the the list for 2027, the wait list is open, and we are formulating what that is going to look like for next year. But I am telling you.
it is idizuni it is uniquely
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like needed.
on a soul level, on a soul level. And so I like consider it, please, please consider it because
What happened over those four days was like that will never leave me. That will never leave me. It will remind me every day of why I do this work and why this work is so important in the world because women who come alive and who stand and claim
The most honest and fullest version of themselves. Like that is the world I want to live in. I want to live in nothing less than that. Nothing less than that. But you have to say yes to that. You have to say yes to that. And as the women were saying goodbye and we were all going on our separate travels as we were leaving, you know, they all said to me, Thank you for doing this. Thank you for doing this.
And that seed was a seed that Suzanne and I had planted last June when I heard this little voice and I almost choked it down because I was still in a posture of possibility that didn't think this was possible. And I said to her, what if I come and do a book tour stop in France? What if I come and visit you? And and I put together a little book tour stop.
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And then she said, like, what if we went up that and what if we do a retreat? And it was just an immediate yes for me. With like a lot of doubt, a lot of resistance, a lot of fear, a lot of who do you think you are? Right? Like that that still existed.
But it all disappeared after I stood on the stage for the book launch. It's like it didn't even carry with me up until that moment. And when we were there during the immersion, it was just it was so spectacular. It was so special. And so if you feel a pull to that, like please reach out because we are going to on onboard women over the next couple of months. And
you know, I know that it will be life changing for you, but as these women were saying goodbye.
And saying thank you for doing this, I realized something really, really important in the process that I hadn't actually thought about up until that moment.
The hardest part of expanding. The hardest part of expanding is saying yes. It's saying yes. All they did was say yes, and then they let that unfold. But that is the steepest curve. The steepest curve is saying yes. Once you say yes.
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Guess what happens? The cascading impact of that begins to rearrange your life. You begin to become more aligned. You see different clients, you might make more money. Like the yes is the catalyst. The yes is the catalyst to the expansion. Every single time I need to write that down because I'm like the yes is the catalyst to the expansion. And as I said goodbye to them, we were all in tears and.
Just soaking up the beauty that we had experienced over those four days. I just looked at them and said, Thank you for saying yes. Like you did that. You did that. That doesn't belong to anybody else. It belongs to you in you saying yes to yourself.
To the opportunity.
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Ugh so much we stop ourselves so much by saying no because we are afraid we are afraid that when we get there it's not gonna do the thing that we need it to.
But there is no there's not even a one percent.
Where that exists. When you say yes, you catalyze into something different. You catalyze into something different. And that is what is important. It doesn't mean you say yes to everything. It doesn't mean you say yes to everything. There are a lot of things that are not meant for you. There are a lot of things that are not aligned for you. But when you feel that pull, when you know there's something there for you to discover, and you say yes to that, your expansion starts immediately.
I knew when I submitted the book, I knew.
And I said on my first call with my publisher after they had approved my manuscript, we hopped on a call and they said, Do you have any expectations for what the book is gonna do in your life? And I said, No. The only expectation that I have
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is to allow myself to become the woman that has been calling me for 20 years to fucking write. That was it. That was the only, that was the only expectation I had was that I was gonna allow it to shift the parts of my identity who didn't feel worthy enough of doing this work.
And when I met that, when I met her on stage, when I met her in Europe.
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She just knew the whole time that this was where she was gonna lead us. But I said no to her for so many years. I said no to her for so many years. And so when those women were thinking me, I said, this isn't about me. It's not about me and Suzanne making the doing the work behind the scenes. It was about them saying yes.
saying yes to being there and showing up fully in the most incredible of ways.
It was just it was life changing. And I know that that sounds so cheesy, but it was. It was life changing.
And so when we got down to San Sebastian, when we said goodbye to the women, Laura, my best friend Lindsay and I, we went down to San Sebastian in Spain, and another piece of me came alive in a way that I have not even integrated or totally understand yet.
But all of a sudden, the dreams that I had seemed so small. Seemed so small. And maybe it was because I had spent those four days, Suzanne and I had spent those four days really facilitating, holding the space for the women to dream big. That because I was in the energy of that, what transpired when I had a moment to not be in facilitation mode.
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But to begin to receive what had happened there, all of a sudden my own lens of possibility continued to widen. It got bigger and bigger and bigger.
And that is such an incredibly beautiful place because a lot of the time when things want to widen, when we start to go, maybe there's more here. Maybe there is something else that's happening that maybe I could attach to, that maybe is for me. So many of the times, again, we say no. We say no before we've even allowed it to take shape or bloom, before it even roots into something that is important.
And so I spent a lot of that time, a lot of time just laying on the beach and thinking about what is to come next. And it does not surprise me at all because this is what happens when you step into this work. But as soon as I got to Europe, I started getting more inquiries. People were joining the House of Moore.
more so in this past few weeks in May than really the the four months prior to that since we started in January. And it just of course, of course that's what happens. Got an incredible speaking opportunity. I got an opportunity to be on the cover of a magazine. so many, so many opportunities just started
Coming out of thin air.
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Thin air. Not things I'd pitched, not things that I had connected into. They just showed up. And I was reminded over and over and over again.
during our time there that that is the work. The work is to embody, the work is to understand where that posture of possibility, where that edge exists, and where I need to push it to really expand even further.
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I know that the lessons of the past six weeks has it I don't even think it's been six weeks yet.
But the lessons of what has happened for me are going to continue to deepen and
really root themselves into my work, into the richness of what I offer clients, the profound shifts that can happen very, very quickly when we are doing this work together, co-facilitating me and you.
We can shift a lot. And it's incredible to watch those shifts happen for people, to give them a piece of wisdom from their own selves that doesn't belong to anyone else. It belongs to them. It belongs to their own understanding of what's holding them back and where they really truly desire to go. But what this last six weeks has really done for me.
has anchored me so deeply into wanting every single woman on the face of this planet to understand this work, to be able to apply it into their life so that they can come fully alive too.
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And I knew this work was always profound because of how far it has taken me in such a short period of time. You guys, like two years ago, I was literally crumpled into a ball. I had no idea where I was going. I knew, I like there was such a deep stirring in me. I knew that I was being led somewhere remarkable.
Like I had no idea how or why or when. I just kept listening. I just kept listening to that tiny voice, that whisper of like where I needed to go next. And I said yes to some opportunities that.
You know, the past version of me probably would have said no to. And now here we are. And now here we are.
So thank you for being here. Thank you for witnessing my own evolution over the last little bit. I'm so incredibly excited of where we are going as a community. So incredibly excited.
It is the thing that fuels everything for me is being able to share this work.
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Share the depth of my own understanding of how to create this in your life. It is the thing that gets me up every single morning. Because I really truly do want every single woman to understand what it feels like, what it deeply feels like to move out of survival and into their own thoughts.
I love you all so much. I can't wait to continue this conversation.
what a gift this life truly is. Love you so much.
