Nicola Harris (00:01.942)
My loves, welcome to season three of The Economy of Soul. I am so excited to be back at the mic, to sit and speak with you, to use this platform to allow you to really anchor into that next level of what it is that you are calling in. What has transpired over the last really six, not even six months, it's been about five months now for me, four and a half months, has been.
Truly just one of the most life-affirming, life-giving, unbelievable processes. And I just want to bring you into what it has been like, what I've experienced, how things are going over here, where we're tracking to next, and really just bring you into the fold of what has been happening. And all that's really unfolded for me as I've really allowed this process to shape.
How it is that I'm showing up in the world, moving through the world, leading others, leading myself, and what it has all looked like. This season is going to be really full of incredible guests and who hold what I really envision and embody as the definition of expansion in my life. It's not about this, you know, specific type of.
Quote unquote success, it is about them living in their truth. You know, these women really moving through the world in a way that is inspiring to me, but also that we can recognize ourselves within. And it's become so clear to me that.
Being inspired by someone is incredibly amazing. It's it's such an amazing gift to be able to see someone and be inspired by what it is that they're doing and creating in their lives. But sometimes that feels so far away that it almost becomes like not even possible. It does the opposite of what we want to be able to do within our own expansion. It sort of says that's for them, but it's not for me. And so my goal, especially with
Nicola Harris (02:23.211)
This platform has always been to show you examples of powerful, powerful women who are choosing themselves, who are choosing their truth, who are choosing the mission and the vision that's been placed on their hearts, and they are going out into the world living it. And that comes with all sorts of ups and downs and
You know, what am I doing? And am I doing this right? And why am I even doing this? And all of the questions and the doubt that come along with it, because that is part of the process. It's the one of the most holiest parts of the process of bumping up against the resistance and then being willing, being willing to witness what that resistance is really trying to communicate and being willing to move beyond it, taking that next step.
Taking the action that feels really uncomfortable in the body, but really gets you to this next step. Even if it is micro, if it is micro, it is still important to that process. And so I'm so thrilled for the women that are going to be joining me here. We are gonna have a range of topics. And of course, I will be popping in for some solo episodes as well.
At time of recording, this is the beginning of September. My children have just gone back to school, all three of them. I've got two in high school now and one in middle school. It was my completion of elementary at the end of June. And it's just feeling like a whole new world over here of having children who are incredibly they're so passionate about what it is that they love and they're carving out their own paths right before my eyes. And it's been
Just so wonderful to watch them move through that process. And, you know, I'm their mom. So of course they they don't love to hear any of the things that I do in the world because, you know, I'm their mother. But I'm watching them expand in their own ways. I'm watching them really widen their own posture of possibility of what their adult lives might start to look like. You know, I've got one who's
Nicola Harris (04:39.734)
Almost 17, one who's almost 14, and one who just turned 11. And all of them are looking out with this sense of sort of curiosity and wonder of like, what could be out there for me? And they're starting to have those conversations with me of like, wouldn't that be cool if? And I have to say that it's one of my most favorite really parts of motherhood, I think, that I've experienced is getting to witness them leaning into that, getting to
question what it is that they want for themselves and and allowing possibility to be present within their mindset, within their their bodies, within their awareness. And I think it's just so incredibly inspiring for me to watch them also dream and create visions and paths and goals for themselves that are going to lead them into adulthood.
And so it's been really, really fun to watch that. I am hoping that it's also been very fun for them to watch me because since Behave launched in April, it has been I'm not even sure the word to describe it because it has been so life affirming to watch really the
what has unfolded, what what has wanted to make its way towards me without gripping anything. And I know I've said this in a past episode, but my goal with the book and my goal with really stepping into the identity of my authorship and moving through the world with that is that I didn't want to really grip onto something specific. I knew that
Writing Behave and launching it into the world was the opportunity for me to do something to embody a version of myself that had been within me for over 20 years, since I was 19 years old. And I didn't want to really try to control the outcome of that. I wanted to allow myself the possibility of just.
Nicola Harris (06:57.944)
Sort of moving with it. Didn't mean I wasn't doing anything, of course. But it wasn't that I was gripping to any specific result so that I could just be open to the process of how this all wanted to unfold. And as I was wrapping up editing last year, I also hopped into an additional somatic certification that has been just.
You know, it's been one of the most sacred journeys for my own self, but also to be able to give to my clients. And I traveled to Costa Rica with my mentor Shana Raskin and some of my fellow colleagues who are in the certification with me. And that trip
Really has set something in motion for me around how we hold space for one another and the way in which my body of work had been formulating prior to that and now really looking at it as an evolution because of how deeply things shifted for me while I was away. So obviously, launched the book in April. That was that was a
moment that I will never ever forget. And so if you were a part of it, thank you so much. In whatever capacity, if you've bought a book afterwards, if you have heard about it, if you've just even liked a post about it, I just want to say thank you because being a first-time author is not for the faint of heart. Especially when you are in I was in a hybrid publishing realm. So I had support behind me, but also it was fully on me to get the book out into the world and and to now market it and
you know, do all the things with it, I cannot tell you how meaningful every single purchase of Behave is, how meaningful every review is, how meaningful every DM is of you telling me what touched you, of every tag that you post on Instagram or Facebook. All of that is so incredibly deeply meaningful to me. And so thank you.
Nicola Harris (09:18.254)
For for however you participated in that piece. shortly after that, I obviously spoke quite a few times on a few different stages. And then I was off to Europe to host our first annual Elevate immersion with my dear friend Suzanne, who has been one of those life force cheerleaders behind me every step of the way for the last few years since I was in one of her containers, which is just, you know.
full circle moment for both of us. We got to meet in person. That was truly everything that I thought it would be plus times infinity. It the women who were with us in the south of France, the it was just the overall again, this this notion of like possibility that we stop ourselves from really allowing ourselves to feel. And
I think it's because at the end of the day, I I believe as humans we are more afraid of our power than we are of failure. And when women come to me and say they are afraid of failing.
You know, when I ask them, well, how many times have you failed before? They've failed. And often it isn't a fail of it isn't that fear of failure at all. It is this fear of how incredibly powerful we truly are. And that feels really incredibly edgy to touch. And I have had moments where I have been anchoring into my own power and
What that feels like and how to hold it. And it can feel incredibly overwhelming because each of us, every single human being, has this innate, innate. It is a part of our DNA structure, this power within us that isn't small. It isn't small.
Nicola Harris (11:22.006)
We we make it small. We we dim it down, we water it down, we we don't fully show up in the way that we know we're capable of, or that our potential isn't fully developed yet. But when we begin to tap into that, that aliveness is what I love to call it, because it's a it's a place within us that is so alive that doubt really has no place there with it. Doubt may still be present.
But it cannot, the doubt cannot touch how incredibly strong the aliveness was. And so the six of us while we were in France really started touching that aliveness. We really started getting attuned to what that feels like in our bodies to allow it to become bigger, to take up more space so that we can lead ourselves back, you know, when we got home back in the world, in our work.
in our lives, in our relationships in a way that
In a way that scares most people. In a way that scares most people. And if I think, if I can distill all of my years of experience, all of even the strategy, the way that I would go into organizations and rearrange them to better support their bottom line, all of it was.
Around arranging people into their aliveness, into their truth, into those natural places within us that are so incredibly powerful.
Nicola Harris (13:02.104)
But that we we end up thinking our way out of it. We end up doubting or shoulding our way out of it because of life responsibilities and, you know, our conditioning and societal pressure and all of those things that get caught up in the muck of who it is that we truly are.
But it's just been incredible to witness. And so I went to Costa Rica at the end of July, and I probably should do an episode just that alone because of
Nicola Harris (13:37.901)
You know, we s we say life-changing and we say transformative, and and there's a lot of noise around those words out in especially in the coaching world. And I never want to hype something up to be bigger than it is, but it was that for me. It was life-changing. I came home a lighter, a lighter version of myself. I left so much.
Of what wanted to move out of my body there in the jungle with those women. And we all did. It was incredibly powerful and beautiful. And it reminded me so deeply, so deeply, the power that our bodies have. The power that our bodies have. That every day we are absorbing.
Things through our environment, through our relationships, through what we consume. We are we are digesting all of it. And if we are not moving it, a lot of the time it gets settled into our bones. It gets settled into our bodies. And so the process of working and utilizing the body as a tool to create a life that feels so fucking juicy.
to create work that you are lit up within and paid well for. Like that possibility lives in our ability to really walk through the journey of the resistance.
There were so many times when I was there when we were we were practicing these these different techniques and and developing our skill set that my mind was telling me not to go there. My mind was saying, don't say the thing. My mind was was resisting the process of fully allowing trauma to leave my body, old, outdated beliefs that were were dating back to when I was a child.
Nicola Harris (15:51.641)
But I was really committed to allowing my body the space, allowing my body the privilege of offloading and moving what it needed to release. I knew that that was going to happen while I was there. I did not realize to the extent of what was going to shift and move within me. And that is the gift of this work. That is the gift of this work. Being an entrepreneur, being in business, being a female founder specifically.
The resistance that automatically will show up because of that. It is the most activating journey that we can be on. All of our, all of our shit, all of our trauma, all of those limiting beliefs, everything is going to be mirrored back to us through entrepreneurship. It is an absolute guarantee. I can tell you that it is a guarantee.
That you are going to experience so much resistance. Not only when things are not going well, but when things are going incredibly well. The resistance also exists because the body does not yet quite understand how to hold all of the goodness. All of the goodness, all of the joy, all of the abundance, all of
The incredibly
That wants to be held, that wants to make its way to you.
Nicola Harris (17:28.342)
Our bodies are not designed to do that. Our bodies are designed to keep us safe, and safe is what has been familiar. Our body's definition of safety is only what has been familiar. So if you have, like me, been brought up or lived in traumatic environments, I have had traumatic relationships.
That becomes the blueprint. And so we have to work with our body. We have to lean into the resistance of what it really feels like to expand beyond that. And it's not easy. It doesn't feel great. It doesn't feel great. There have been so many moments over the last well, really, since since even before I I published the book that I was like, I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I can walk myself through.
And I do this work. I do this work. But there were moments where I was not sure. I was not sure. Even going to Costa Rica felt like such an edge for me. You know, that place where you're like, I know that I am bumping up against what is comfortable.
I know that I'm bumping up against that.
But I also know on the other side of it, I can trust myself to know that on the other side of this is something so incredibly beautiful. And that sentiment was tenfold by the time I got home.
Nicola Harris (19:10.456)
Tenfold.
More clients. I held more space more deeply than I ever have. That has been such a gift, not only to me, but to the women who received. Moments of clearing out things in the body that have just been sitting there, asking to be released, allowing these women to then go out into the world.
with a very different lens of who they think they are.
And this idea of self-concept and this idea of well the resistance is just part of me. The resistance is not part of you. It is not who you are. The aliveness is who you are. That is home. That is home base.
The fear and the doubt that
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That isn't you. That isn't you.
And the more that we can begin to understand that, the more that we can put ourselves into spaces, the more that we can really understand how our bodies, how those sensations are received.
In any given moment, as life is lifing.
We can begin to repattern that. We can begin to utilize the body now. Instead of the nervous system, it's always going to do its job. It's not going to stop doing its job. Just because I've I've now expanded does not mean that I never am going to feel the fear of what that continually will feel like. I you know, at the end of September in two weeks, as a matter of fact, in two weeks, I am doing something that feels so incredibly edgy, I'm almost afraid to say it out loud.
It feels a lot. But continuing to put myself in spaces where I know, I know, because I can trust so deeply. I know that on the other side of it, I will shift regardless of what happens in the rooms, regardless of what happens in the situation, I know because I can trust myself that.
Nicola Harris (21:37.16)
I am going to glean something so important, it will it will shift the trajectory of where it is that I'm meant to go.
And that's the whole entire part and point of expansion is that I don't have to grip. I do not have to grip to every single outcome. Do not have to try to control the ROI and making sure that X, Y, Z happens in order for me to feel safe to make this investment.
That's what I was trying to do before and it was not working. It was not working. But now I have developed such a trust within my body of what is a sensation coming up? What's happening here for me? Maybe I am starting to start to get anxious. Maybe that my belly is starting to send me signals that it is, it is red alert, right?
Maybe I can't quite breathe in the same pace that I was previously, right? Maybe my throat, maybe I'm swallowing my words because I don't feel worthy of this space. There's a million different ways that my body still sends me those sensations. But instead of taking those sensations and observing them as truth, I now get to witness those sensations and ask and ask.
Are you trying to tell me? What are you trying to keep me safe from? And instead of pushing it away, instead of trying to bury it in my body, that uncomfortability, the feeling of, I just don't, I don't love this, I want to run from it. Instead of that, I invite in the sensation of uncomfortability. I sit with it. I get curious. Instead of pushing it away and
Nicola Harris (23:43.328)
Numbing it, I get curious about what it is here.
Ask. And as soon as I can get very clear on that, I get to just ask the question: is this true for me? Is this rooted in my aliveness or is it rooted in my fear? If it is rooted in my fear, then guess what? It doesn't get to decide anymore. But if it's rooted in my aliveness, that gets a seat at the table from here on out. And I made that commitment to myself.
Before I launched the book in April, I made that commitment to say that I need to learn more deeply how to move from my aliveness, not from my fear. Because as someone who had experienced a lot of trauma, there is a lot of fear still in this body. It doesn't go away. And with every next level, as I said, I am gonna hit a new, I'm gonna hit a new level of that resistance.
Doesn't just disappear. But when you utilize the body, when you start to understand how you can shift your state, how you can open up to new opportunities to experience in your body, how you can redirect some of this resistance into really powerful places.
It becomes a gift. The resistance becomes a gift because I then know, I know as soon as I feel the resistance, something is here for me. This is an a doorway to a part of my expansion that I hadn't understood before. And if I take the time to really understand it, if I take the time to lean in.
Nicola Harris (25:39.565)
I get to develop a relationship with that resistance. And instead of it being something that feels incredibly heavy, although it still feels uncomfortable, it doesn't, that doesn't go away. I get to work with that. And I get to choose the next step out of a place of clarity instead of a place of fear. And I believe that we can create anything in our lives from this place.
We can create so much beauty, so much joy, so much alignment, so much abundance when we are tapping into that. The issue is that we have been told that the resistance, that the resistance, that the fear, that it gets a seat at the table. But it doesn't get a seat here anymore.
Nicola Harris (26:36.92)
Gets a seat here in my world is your aliveness, is your truth, is your inherent abundance.
The joy that wants to be lived through you, the impact that wants to be witnessed and sent out into the world. It wants to be built through you.
All of us have this. Each and every human being. And it is entirely up to you whether or not you say yes or whether or not you say, I can't. I can't. And there have been moments where I have said both. But what I am actively leaning into right now is the habit, the habit.
of saying yes to that aliveness, even if it feels really, really fucking uncomfortable.
So this season on The Economy of Soul is really going to be about leaning in, leaning in, hearing the resistance, understanding that that doesn't go away, that it's a part of your expansion.
Nicola Harris (27:54.541)
And hearing stories from women who are doing incredibly beautiful things out in the world and who are utilizing their own resistance as the doorway to that next level. And so I'm so excited for you to be here. I'm so excited to just continue this conversation around what it means to really show up for yourself, to choose that aliveness actively every day in your business, in your life.
In your work, in your world, with your relationships. How can you bring more of that aliveness into your day-to-day moments? Because that is the place where we thrive. And it has become so abundantly clear to me that the mission that I have on my heart, on my soul, is that we are thriving. We are thriving from here on out. And so I hope you'll join me.
I hope you'll join me.
Nicola Harris (29:04.468)
If you are ready to really take this to the next level, I am going to tell you that the House of Moore, my flagship, my ooh, my most favorite place to hang out, the women in this community are some of the most incredibly gifted, beautiful, heart-centered, soul-led, ambitious, ready to fully own it, women that I've ever met.
And the doors to the house are closing at the end of September until the beginning of twenty twenty seven. And so if you're ready, if you're really ready.
to shift so much within the next year, I'm gonna invite you into that space. Come join us. Come hang out. Come play. You know, I call the House of Moore our nervous system playground, where we get to to just lean in and explore and get curious about where our edges exist. And we get to do that in community. So I'll drop the link in the show notes, but I hope you'll I hope you'll join me in that space as well.
It's truly, truly unbelievable. So love you all so much. We'll see you next week.
